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Dear Dish-It, Is This a Fluke or Is It for Real?

Jul 10, 2018

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I think I like this boy, but he's in grade 11 and I'm in grade 8. The reason why I think we'd be great together is that I did a test and with him I got 89 percent. But I'm wondering is this just a fluke with my emotions or is it for real? Cuz I don't know if he would be interested in me as I'm only 12 and he's going to be 16 soon. All my friends think it's weird that we don't go out as we are so alike. One time, we both watched an episode of The Simpsons and both recited most of it off at the same time and everyone thought it was creepy. So please give me a push in the right direction.
Stephie


Dear Stephie,

It's totally sweet to find someone you click with so well - someone who likes the same stuff as you and who has the same sense of humor, but tests don't mean squat. Sure, they're fun to take when you're sitting around and dishin' with your girls on a Saturday night, but they hardly make for true love. You gotta keep these sorta dating quizzes in perspective - they're goop... fun goop, but goop all the same.


The second - and bigger - issue is your age difference. In another time and place, this boy might be really interested in you, but four years is a big age gap when you're 12 and he's 16. As you get older, age becomes less important, but for now it's a big deal so stick to being friends. As you get to know each other better and bond more over your love for The Simpsons, the friendship might one day grow into something more! Good luck.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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