Dear Dish-it,
My mom is so embarrassing. She thinks she can do whatever she wants in front of me. We were waiting in line for the bathroom and her fave song was on so she started singing out loud. Everybody was staring at me! I want to tell her but I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I say or do?
crazzy123
Dear crazzy123,
Nearly every kid goes through a period in their life when they're insecure about their parents. But trust me, it's not as bad as you're imagining!
For example, everyone in that bathroom lineup, I bet, could relate to having a parent that says or does something embarrassing. And that's a reflection on your mom, not on you! Plus, while you can't change what other people think of you or your mom, and you may not be able to change the way your mom acts (although you can talk to her about your feelings, and see if she's willing to tone things down in public), you CAN change the way you think about things. And changing the way you think actually changes the way you feel. So, instead of feeling embarrassed, try feeling grateful that your mom takes the time to do stuff with you, or that she's fun and silly and comfortable expressing herself, when so many adults aren't! In other words: think about why you love your mom, rather than what other people think of her. It sounds like she's got a great sense of humor, and it seems like she's the kind of mom who's there for you when you need her. Focus on the good stuff about her!
If for some reason you find yourself in other situation where someone actually makes fun of you because of something your mom does, which I really don't think would happen, then stand up for yourself and your mom. Calmly and confidently say back, "I'm sorry you feel that way but she's my mom and I love her." People will respect you for standing up for yourself and your mom.
If you show that you're confident and secure, everyone will treat you (and your mom!) with the respect that you deserve. So, go out there and have fun with your mom, and appreciate the great times you and she have together!
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