Dear Dish-It,
I already have a boyfriend, but it really doesn't seem like it. I love him so much and don't want to break up with him. The problem is that we almost never talk, hang out, go out or do any of that BF and GF stuff. He is too shy. I'm always the one making the right moves, but it never works out. All my friends say either he doesn't like me or he's not the one for me. What should I do to get us to get more active as BF and GF?
Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, it just isn't meant to be. I know that's not exactly the advice you were looking for, but you do need to come to terms with the fact that your BF just might not be right for you. It sounds like you are looking for someone who you can spend lots of quality time with, chillin' with friends, going to movies, etc. But he is more interested in holing up at home by himself. Not exactly the makings for a successful relationship. You have a few options. Give him some space and hope that he'll snap out of it or call things off. Despite how much you care for him, you can't force someone to love you. It's not fair to either of you to continue on the way things have been going. You want a real, one-on-one relationship and he doesn't seem to want the same thing. Although it will be hard, it may be in your best interest to move on and find someone who will be just as into a relationship as you are. Good Luck!
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