The Angry Side of the Situation

Today on Dear Dish-It’s, “Let’s Talk About it Tuesday” we will be answering questions and concerns regarding anger. We see different aspect of being angry or feeling angry because this issue comes out differently for all. Anger is an undesired emotion and it’s best to wrap your head around it now. Consider wise mind the next time you are feeling angry, it will help you present the best version of yourself. No one likes angry people so do your best not to be one.

Let’s Take a Look at This Week’s Questions:

Question by dunno.

Question: I feel irritated and frustrated at my family a lot. They think I am rude and never have nice things to say. It's not that I'm trying to control my temper, but I am constantly being nagged by them for every little thing. They also treat me like I am younger than I actually am for a reason I wouldn't like to share. I constantly get told that I won't be able to write my exam paper in the given time because I can only waste time, that I'll fail 10th grade and that I am a lazy, arrogant snob who expects others to do her work for her, when the truth is they are the ones who don't let me do my own work. I lose my phone for a day if I say something I'm not supposed to and this is unfair because I only use it for 2 or 3 hours. I don't have many friends at school and want to make more, but my friends are so shy and judgemental of others that I just get annoyed at everyone internally. Most people avoid me like the plague and treat me like they're afraid of me when in fact I've never even spoken to them. People are either too overprotective or too afraid of me and I don't know what their problem is. I may not be like them but I am a human being none the less. I do my best to get through all this but I feel like I'm failing every time. I've told my parents my exact thoughts on this but they say that they want me to feel this way because I am a deceitful, underhanded snob and they won't change their ways of dealing with me. I try to get through to my friends as well but they're shy and I know it'll take time for them to change and keep encouraging them but I feel worse with every tiny thing that happens.

Insight/Advice:

I feel like your parents are really bringing you down. They need to stop putting you down and start positively reinforcing you for you good behavior. This means if you do something right or good that they let you know. Don’t be scared to make the first move with people. Show them your true colors, and maybe they won’t be afraid to approach you. Turn the negative into a positive in any situation that you can. You could eve try meditation.

Question by Big Sister

Question: Dear Dish-It, I have a very crazy sister. She gets angry for no reason, she hits me in the car, and jumps on top of me! I know she's just 4 and doesn't know any better but my other sister is following her! I think she might have anger issues... How do I make her STOP??

Insight/Advice:

Firstly, tell her how you feel. Tell her you don’t like when she acts like that. Let your parents know too because this type of aggression at such a young age is not a healthy thing. You need to communicate how you're feeling and let them know your concerns.

Question by oh brother

Question: Dear Dish-It, I have been really stressed and angry. All I want to know is how could I become a little bit more loose? Please help me. Sincerely, oh brother

Insight/Advice:

Try to relax. Don’t let him get to you. Use wise mind to help you discover the proper reaction. Talk to someone about how you feel. Tell your parents about your concerns. Figure out why you feel this way and what you can do to stop it.

Afterthoughts

Anger is not a desired emotion. Try to find others, more healthy ways to communicate. It’s okay to be upset, but it's always better to use your words nicely then to go on the attack. Try using wise mind to help you make the best decision. Get wise before you get angry, and don’t follow in someone’s lead if they are being angry.

Helplines & Resources: 

• TeenMentalHealth.org
• KidsHealth - A safe, private place for kids & teens who need honest, accurate information and advice about health, emotions, and life.
• Teen Line - A helpline for kids and teens to work through their personal issues and mental health as needed.  1-800-TLC-TEEN or 1-800-852-8336 (Toll-Free US & Canada).
• Mind Infoline – Information on self-harm and a helpline to call in the UK at 0300 123 3393 or text 86463.
• Kids Help Phone – Free, anonymous and bilingual helpline for young people in Canada, available 24/7 by phone, Live Chat, and the Always There chat app for any issue, including self-injury and suicide. Call 1-800-668-6868 or visit kidshelpphone.ca.
• Kids Helpline – A helpline for kids and young adults in Australia to get help with issues including cutting and self-harm. Call 1800 55 1800. (Kids Helpline).

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