We all have questions of different natures. Today on Dear Dish-It’s, “Let’s Talk About it Tuesday” we will be addressing questions and concerns regarding a variety of issues that come up for kids and teens. Please feel free to write me if you have a question or concern of your own.
Let’s Take a Look at This Week’s Questions:
Life can often feel like a giant puzzle.
Question by passion star
Dear Dish-It, so, I am really skinny, and I love to run. I ran 40 miles in track and I love to jog. I am the first girl to finish running the mile. but I always get picked last or second to last at team games and I have depression so I get emo when people do that. they pick all girls before me even though I can run better than most of them and they never notice me at all. It seems like they never pay attention. it makes me cry a lot cause they think I'm just soooo weak. and in my district, sports= popularity.
Insight/Advice:
Have you ever tried telling the girls how you feel? Let them know you can run and are good at sports. Let them see you in action. Show them what you’ve got. You deserve a chance to play and to be considered a top pick, especially if you are one. Hang in there, you will get your time to shine.
Don't be afraid to show people what you can do.
Question by Frustrated
Hi. So when I was younger I used to overthink a lot and did some embarrassing stuff. But I thought I knew better now. Guess what, I made the same mistake again and it was really serious this time. It hurt me for a long time and I just realized it a while ago. Just because someone was nicer than others, I started overthinking and developed a crush that hurt me a lot. The person doesn't know though. I want to know why I keep doing this and how to stop.
Insight/Advice:
You are speaking very vaguely about your situation so it is hard to comment. What do you do that’s embarrassing? It sounds like you are too hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, but that’s normal and it only makes you more human. It’s okay. You need to forgive yourself for anything that you are beating yourself up over. Try to stop thinking so much. Relax. Try to enjoy life. You are young and there is a lot to take part in.
Don't beat yourself up. It's in the past.
Question by mileschroniclesfan!
I'm gay and my mum and dad don't except me at all and they want me to break up with my boyfriend. what do I do???
Insight/Advice:
This is a really difficult situation to be in. You just want to be yourself, but your parents are trying to tell you how to live. I can’t tell you what you should do, but you I think it’s best to follow your heart. Talk to your parents, tell them this isn’t a phase and that you’d appreciate if they could accept you for who you are. Regardless, stay true to yourself and try not to let their reactions get to you. You know there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, and hopefully one day your parents will too.
When you just feel so embarsssed.
Question by Broken Heart Girl
Hi I’m 14 and have had many relationships, all of them have ended badly, I almost always give a second chance and this girl I once dated wanted to try again, and I was super into her so I gave it ago. she is the best girlfriend a girl could ever ask for, but there is one problem, her mom is super mentally abusive to her and her dad, but he wont leave her, for financial reason, and to top it all of her mom is homophobic, so she cant tell her were dating. Her mom and I hate each other, and that probably wont change. but I need help convincing my girlfriend that she needs to tell her mother that shes tired of the abuse. I'm not going to force her or anything I just want her to be happy, and feel safe in her own home.
Insight/Advice:
It sounds like you are doing everything you can do. Talking to your girlfriend, encouraging her to talk to her parents –this is good, but she has to get to that place on her own. I’m sorry you are going through this. It would be nice if people could accept us for who we are and let us love who we want to love. It sounds like your girlfriend’s mom needs help. Is there anyone who could convince her to get it? I’m sorry you are living with these circumstances, but focus on the relationship you have with your girlfriend. Try to enjoy each other despite the obstacles in your way—focus on what’s good and try to block what you can’t control.
Sometimes love comes with consequences.
Afterthoughts
As you can tell, everyone goes through different things, but we all have problems. Talking about stuff is a good idea and I encourage you to do this. Tell people how you really feel. Make sure they know your bottom line.
Try to focus on what’s going good in your life, and ignore the negative. Sometimes we can solve problems instantly, but other times they go on and on and it seems pointless. Hang in there, in time things will sort itself out. You will get your moment of peace, it just takes time.
Don’t obsess about the things you can’t control. Let people know you are there to listen and happy to help, but know when it’s someone’s business and when you should stay out of it. Sometimes we have to let people figure things on their own time and in their own way. All we can hope is that they get there and that things improve.
Make sure you get the help you need.
Helplines & Resources:
- TeenMentalHealth.org
- KidsHealth - A safe, private place for kids & teens who need honest, accurate information and advice about health, emotions, and life.
- Teen Line - A helpline for kids and teens to work through their personal issues and mental health as needed. 1-800-TLC-TEEN or 1-800-852-8336 (Toll-Free US & Canada).
- Mind Infoline – Information on self-harm and a helpline to call in the UK at 0300 123 3393 or text 86463.
- Kids Help Phone – Free, anonymous and bilingual helpline for young people in Canada, available 24/7 by phone, Live Chat, and the Always There chat app for any issue, including self-injury and suicide. Call 1-800-668-6868 or visit kidshelpphone.ca.
- Kids Helpline – A helpline for kids and young adults in Australia to get help with issues including cutting and self-harm. Call 1800 55 1800. (Kids Helpline).
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