Dear I want long hair and ferie27,
Both of you are faced with a similar dilemma. You're growing up and wanting to show the world exactly who you are but the 'rents are convinced they know who you are better than you do. Although it happens to everyone out there, it always feels like you're the only one dealing with an unreasonable mom or dad. What both of you need to do, is sit down with your Mom and Dad and let them know how you feel. Start it off casual and try not to take the offensive right away. If you present your case about the clothes you really want to wear or the hairstyle you are dying to sport in a mature and logical fashion, the 'rents will have a lot less reason to jump down your throat. Make it sort of fun by drawing up charts or making a presentation on your computer.
Hopefully once the 'rents have seen how serious you are about these topics, they'll be ready to sit down and work out a compromise. Just remember that it's good to let them know how you feel, but ultimately they do have the last word. Hang in there though - only a few more years before you can have whatever hairstyle you want and choose what you do in school. There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .
