Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".
Dear Lonely Pain,
You know how there are always those girls who are drawn to the guys who are the big jerks? They let their boyfriends treat them like crap, even though they're usually really sweet and friendly. It looks like you have gotten yourself trapped in a very similar dating pattern. I have no doubt that you're a great guy, but you aren't so great at making a stand for yourself. Relationships aren't just about being the sweetest guy who will do anything for their girl. It sounds like you are constantly attracting the girls who know you will do anything to make them happy - even if they treat you like crap. Your goal should be to be a great BF and a guy who can take time for himself and work on being a better person, not just a better boyfriend. The relationship you are in right now is never going to work if you don't make a stand for your own happiness. If your GF can't stop with the raggin' then you're going to have to send her packin'. And instead of worrying about having the perfect GF, worry about having fun with friends and family. You'll be much more likely to meet the one if you stop trying so hard!
Dear Dish-It,
I'm 16 and about a month ago a started dating this girl. She is smart, fun, and so incredibly beautiful. She has been in several relationships before me, and she was treated so badly. All of those guys were with her to get some "action" and she does not want to have sex before she is married. Most guys treat girls as if they are objects and that they are only there to please the guy. But I don't think they are there for that. Girls should be treated with the utmost respect that they deserve. I know that sounds like crap coming from a high school student (guy,) but I'm not like all the other guys. I treat my girl like a princess. Everything that we do together, I do for her. I try to put her before me. I've told her that I really care about her, and that I would never do anything to hurt her. Last Monday I took her out and I asked her if I ever annoyed her she said that I didn't but that I was weird. Weird in the sense that she has never seen a guy act as polite as I do. I asked her if that was a bad thing, she said it wasn't, but that it made her laugh!? I don't know if her intentions are genuine or not or if she is just using me. It would totally break my heart if she is. I don't want her to get hurt - she means so much to me. Please help if you can.
buzzed921
Dear buzzed921,
Sit down and take a couple deep breaths. Being in love for the first time can often be very overwhelming and sometimes you start to act a little out of the ordinary. You get paranoid for no reason and sometimes end up causing silly problems in your relationship that were never actually issues to begin with. Your girl is not using you and I'm sure her intentions are genuine. She probably just sees you trying too hard to make her happy, when the truth is, she's just happy bein' your girl. You don't need to put her feelings ahead of yours all the time and everything you do should not be to make her happy (you need to be happy too!) You need balance in a relationship or someone, (in this case your girlfriend,) is going to feel smothered. She already knows how great you are, that's why she's dating you in the first place. So stop with the drama, relax and be happy that you are with this super-fly girl.
So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .
