Dear Dish-it,
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 and a half months now, but he still hasn’t told me he loves me. Is there a problem with our relationship? Is he too afraid to admit his true feelings to me because he’s scared of how I feel about him?
Boyfriend-Drama
Dear Boyfriend-Drama,
As you say, you’ve only been together for 2 and a half months. That’s not a very long time. Saying “I love you” is a big step. A HUGE step. When people say it too early, they’re often confusing lust for love. In the early stages of a relationship, things are really exciting. You’re having fun and discovering all the things you like about each other. But in order to know that you truly love someone, you need to experience their faults as well. And sometimes, at the beginning of a relationship, people stay on their best behavior so their faults don’t show. That’s why it’s so important not to be hasty. You need to know exactly what you’re getting into before you say those words.
Communication Is Key
But that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about your feelings. In fact, it’s important that you do. That way you’re not playing head games with each other, constantly wondering “does he still like me?” So sit down and have a chat with him. Tell him where you stand, and even if he’s not forthcoming with his feelings, flat out ask him where his head is at. If he’s into you, you can breathe easy. If he’s not, then it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. No sense giving your heart to someone who isn’t feeling it. That way, you can move on and find someone who won’t keep you guessing.
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