Dear Dish-it,
Am I ever gonna get to hang out with my friends and my BF? My mom is so strict! It's like she doesn't understand me ... what should I do?
abused heart
My Mom's Too Strict
Dear abused heart
Let me to introduce you to the beauty of compromise. You and your mom are never going to agree on every single little thing. Believe me, me and my mom still don't see eye-to-eye on everything. Your mom, like my mom, only wants what's best for you even though it may seem at times like she's being overprotective. But, after all, she's your mama! Her JOB is to protect you.
Meet Half-Way
Sometimes our mothers may overdo it, and this is when compromise comes in to play. Wanna hang out with your friends? Have them over to your house one weekend so your mama can get to know them better. This will help her trust you and your friends. Wanna do stuff with your boyfriend? Offer to make dinner for both him AND your mom, so they can talk and she can learn to trust him with her daughter more.
Heart Your Mama
When you do these things and your mother sees how responsible and trustworthy you are, she'll be more likely to bend the rules every once in a while. But you have to earn (and keep!) her trust by following the rules at all times. In time, your mom will begin to see how grown-up you're getting. But you'll always be her baby. And, sometimes, that's not so bad. Best of luck!
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