Dear Dish-It,
My friend told me she really doesn’t have a boyfriend – she’s just saying that so her friends won’t think she’s weird. I told her I’d never think she’s weird or not be her friend just because she doesn’t have a boyfriend. Then I was wondering, what if that was me? Should I tell my friends I don’t have a boyfriend or just keep pretending to have one?
d.m.
Dear d.m.,
I think your friends are so lucky to have such a great friend in you. You seem kind and honest – I’m glad to hear you told your girl that you’d still be her friend whether she had a boyfriend or not. That is absolutely the right thing to do and the right way to be.
Having said that, I think you should keep going with the idea that honesty is the best policy, and not only be honest with your friends about your single situation – but also be honest with yourself.
EVERYONE has relationships throughout their life – and you will, too! There are times when we are single and times when we are with someone. Both are times to savor and love life! It’s really OK not to have a boyfriend – think of all the freedom and independence you have right now to be who you want to be and do what you want to do without having to ask anyone or consider the feelings of someone else!
So my advice to you is to be happy and honest, with yourself and with your friends, no matter what your relationship status may be. I promise it will change soon enough – and then you may be wishing you were single, again!
So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.
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