Dear Dish-It,
Me and my BFF (who is a boy) have been told that we should go out so many times by other kids at school, but I don't know if he likes me in that way. I would love to go out with him, but I don't want to wreck our friendship. We've been round to each other’s houses loads, gone into town together, but does he like-like me???
DesperateCrush
Dear DesperateCrush,
Only one person can tell you if he “like-likes” you beyond friendship, and that’s your BFF himself. However, BEFORE you go ahead and tell him how you really feel, I have a bit of advice for you.
The first thing is, you need to sit down and have a long, hard think about the possible outcome of telling your best friend you like him or asking him if he likes you. And that is the possible end of your close friendship. If he doesn’t feel the deeper feelings you feel toward him, he may get scared and distance himself from you.
Of course, the opposite could be true, too. You could have the conversation with him and get a positive answer back. Which would be great, except it’s really not 100% guaranteed, is it?
What about casually bringing up the fact that other kids at school have been commenting on your close friendship and saying the two of you should be boyfriend and girlfriend? You could bring it up with him as a casual conversation with no strings attached and ask him how he feels about the rumours. The trick is not to let on how you feel until he tells you how he feels about it first. Maybe you could get a better understanding of his feelings about the situation this way?
Of course, he could be equally scared that you don’t like him back as more than a friend and keep his feelings bottled up. My best advice to you is to keep your radar on and try your best to feel out the situation without directly telling him your true feelings until you know his. You may be able to tell if he likes you or not by his body language, words and actions.
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