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Dear Dish-It, I Want to Beat Up This Guy Who Likes My Crush

Jan 16, 2008

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

There is this girl that I like at school, but this other guy at school likes her too. One time, I saw them hold hands. I feel like I want to beat him up. What should I do?
junkie_996


Dear junkie_996,

I'm pretty sure you know this before I even say it, but just so we're clear: DON'T BEAT THE DUDE UP. If you really like this girl, you talk to her, you ask her if she wants to hang out, you make friends with her friends. You do not try and pick a fight with some other guy who also seems to be crushin’ on her. If she actually likes the other guy, you're gonna look like a big jerk and if she doesn't like this other guy, then you'll still look like a big jerk. Girls are not impressed with guys who punch out other guys in an attempt to win their affection. If you talk to her and figure out that she likes this guy you saw her lockin' hands with, then you can move on to some new hottie, knowing that at least you gave it a shot without giving her man a shot in the arm.


Hey, I'm in the same situation, but I'm a girl. Hang on and you'll get that girl!
Username: Anonymous


I am not no boy, but I have six brothers and two little sisters, but anyway my two older brothers are having the same problem. They came to my dad and asked if they should beat up the guy who is flirting with their girls or should they handle it and talk it out with the guy. My father told them that fighting doesn't solve anything and that using words is better. If you beat someone up, you will get suspended from school. I hope this story helps.
Username: LoverGirl33194


Good advice, Dish-It.
Username: Anonymous


If you beat up the guy who is dating your crush, she won't ever like you. You have to just wait and be friends with her and her friends. Don't come on too strong either. Just be yourself. If you're like me and you're shy around girls, relax and be like an ocean. If you're not shy around girls, okay then but what I'm really saying is be yourself and be friends with her and her friends. Be friends with the guy too and when they break up, don't worry if she does not date you as soon she breaks up. Give her time to take it all in. If you do what I'm telling you, eventually she will like you.
Username: bunny789


Well if I was Dish-It, I would say just try getting a journal and write your feelings in there, or before the other guy asks her, put a letter in her locker and say it was from you or just ASK HER OUT MAN. Gosh, that's all you have to do and she might say yes. And oh yeah, don't beat the guy up, okay? Get it? Got it? Good. Bye.
Username: Anonymous


Dude, cool it! If she likes you, she'll ask you out. Believe me, I'm a girl.
Username: Anonymous


Even though you might like her, she might not like you. Try to talk to her. I know you might think that's crazy, but I'm a girl myself and I know how they are with guys. Just talk to her, you never know, maybe she likes you too!
Username: emochic13


Don't beat up the guy. See first if she likes you and try not to take it bad if she doesn't find a new hottie to crush on.
Username: Anonymous


Wow, if my bf liked another girl, it would be sooooo hard not to beat her up. Good luck dude!!!
Username: Anonymous


SO RIGHT! I myself am a girl. I have to tell you that you may think it will impress the girl, but really it'll make her hate you. Just make friends with her, then everything will fall into place.
Username: Anonymous


No need to be rude... I know you like her, but what is the need to be mad if you don't go out with her... first you have to find out if she likes you ...if she does, go for the next step.
Username: Anonymous


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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