Today on Dear Dish-It’s, “Let’s Talk About it Tuesday” we will be addressing questions and concerns regarding crushes. So many kids write into us about the opposite sex and it is hard to answer them all, but hopefully you find something In these articles that speak to you.
Let’s Take a Look at This Week’s Questions:
A connection is key in romance.
Question by Abigal
How to flirt with a boy you like?
Insight/Advice:
Just try talking to him. You’ll know pretty quickly if he is interested or not. Observe his behavior and see if he pays you attention. Break the ice and try communicating with him. Or find a way that you can talk to him by striking up a conversation about one of his interests. Flirting generally looks like a lot of eye contact and a lot of smiling. You'll learn over time just take it slow.
Chemistry is the key to relationships.
Question by to good
I like a girl who is also a friend but I’m not sure whether to ask her out what should I do
Insight/Advice:
If you do anything, be careful of how you word it. Let her know that if she doesn’t feel the same, that nothing has to change. If she does feel the same, even better, but you won’t know until you ask. The worst risk is scaring her off and losing a friend. I know of incidents where friendship was lost over one person liking the other, and the other not feeling the same way. Make it clear that you can get over your feelings, but you don't want to lose her as a friend.
Be with someone who wants to be with you.
Question from Anonymous
Dear Dish-it, I really like this boy. He started chatting with me on Messenger and tells me how smart I am. But I feel like we aren't that close yet in real-life, since we've only talked in person once, and most of the time it's him who has to make the first move, whether online or in person. I really want to make the first move for a change but I somehow keep avoiding him at school. Sometimes we do make eye contact but whenever I know he's looking at me I just avoid his gaze.
And today we happened to be walking towards each other and he even caught my eye but I just had to turn back around to join my classmates. Even as I did it, I hated myself for doing it. I wonder if he's mad at me for doing that. Maybe I did it because I'm not really sure what I should say to him. I'm not even sure if we should be together. I'm graduating in a year and we are in different grades so we have so little time to spend with each other. But I really do like him; he's a great person so even if we don't end up together (I really hope we do, though), I still want to become great friends with him. I'm worried he's tired of making the 1st move the whole time so please help me prep up the courage to talk to him first. I'm sorry if this is too long and confusing; there's just a lot on my mind right now. Thanks for reading this!
Yours Truly, Wants to Stop Avoiding My Crush, Who I Really Like
Insight/Advice:
You have to ask yourself why you are avoiding him? What is holding you back? It’s clear that you really like this boy so just message him. Reach out. Make the first move. What are your fears? Don’t worry about what other people think. You have to make yourself happy so follow your heart. Trying is better than not so you don't feel like you missed out on an opportunity. You won't know until you see about the situation, and if he doesn't give you the reaction that you want, don't worry. There will be plenty of boys, and even though it will hurt, you will get over him in time.
Sometimes it doesn't work out, but never give up on love.
Question from anonymous
Dear Dish-It, My boyfriend asked me to marry him and I said yes but I don’t know how to tell my best friends (of 12 years) about it and I want to ask them if they would be my bridesmaids, I really don’t know what to do. Please help me
Insight/Advice:
Is this a pretend wedding? You are too young to get married. I can’t really give you my blessing. You and your boyfriend should wait until your older. Marriage is a very serious adult commitment. You are simply too young to know what you want. Have a pretend wedding, but I’m sure that if you talk to your parents about this that they will say the same thing. How old are you? My gut tells me that if you are on this site that you are too young for marriage.
If you like someone try talking to them.
Afterthoughts
If someone likes you, I promise you will know. Take chances but be prepared for rejection. At this age it is complicated but you have to take risks, otherwise, you’ll never know.
If someone is paying a lot of attention to you, or flirting with you then there is a chance that they like you.
Keep in mind kids and teens are young and don’t know exactly what they want. They might just flirt for fun. They can be scared so don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t like you back.
Hang in there and have fun. Don’t take things too seriously and you’ll be okay. For fun, you can read this article, How to Attract Your Crush Based on Their Star Sign.
Romance should be a two-way street.
Helplines & Resources:
- TeenMentalHealth.org
- KidsHealth - A safe, private place for kids & teens who need honest, accurate information and advice about health, emotions, and life.
- Teen Line - A helpline for kids and teens to work through their personal issues and mental health as needed. 1-800-TLC-TEEN or 1-800-852-8336 (Toll Free US & Canada).
- Mind Infoline – Information on self-harm and a helpline to call in the UK at 0300 123 3393 or text 86463.
- Kids Help Phone – Free, anonymous and bilingual helpline for young people in Canada, available 24/7 by phone, Live Chat, and the Always There chat app for any issue, including self-injury and suicide. Call 1-800-668-6868 or visit kidshelpphone.ca.
- Kids Helpline – A helpline for kids and young adults in Australia to get help with issues including cutting and self-harm. Call 1800 55 1800. (Kids Helpline).
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