Dear Dish-It,
How do you knnow if a boy really likes you?
Lollipop
Dear Lollipop,
There is no 100% foolproof plan that tells you a guy definitely likes you, unless the words come right out of his mouth. But there are hints that can tell you whether or not he has some interest in getting to know you better - indirect ways of showing you he likes you without actually having to say the words. Here are some tips about reading the signs that he’s into you!
No. 1: He starts spending more time talking directly to you and always seems to manage to find a way to single you out and strike up a conversation. He asks you questions – he wants to get to know more about you. Since he's making the effort to talk to you when he could be talking to his friends, don't brush him off with hasty replies. If you keep your guard up he'll get the impression that you’re not into him and this can cause a lot of confusion especially if you actually do like him.
No. 2: Everyone knows when a guy likes a girl he’ll tend to show it by teasing her excessively. For example, if you tell a boy you’re ticklish it’s pretty much guaranteed he’ll try and tickle you every time he sees you – if he likes you. Remember, he’s not doing this to annoy you or wind you up. He just wants to get closer to you and test the waters to see your reaction. If you enjoy his teasing and play along it could be a sign to him that you like him, too.
No. 3: Everyone has their own personal space – it’s almost like a bubble around us that we don't like people getting into without our permission. If someone gets too close and it’s unwanted, we instinctively move away. But if a guy likes you that bubble seems to vanish. Instead of being worried about you getting too close, he wants you to invade his personal space. You can accidentally touch him without him moving away in a hurry. He may even make excuses to be close to you – as close as possible!
No. 4: Smaller signs that he likes you include him calling or texting you more than usual and talking about more and more personal stuff. To get more alone time with you, he may ask to walk you to or from school or, if he drives, to give you a lift. He may get shy and nervous when you’re around, or he may even pretend not to notice you at all in order to cover up his feelings for you.
The important thing to remember is there are no surefire ways to tell if a guy likes you or not, since everyone is different in terms of the signs they display when they’re crushing on someone. The best thing to do is trust your gut and, if you REALLY want to know, just ask him.
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