Dear Dish-It,
Can you help me? For Halloween all I wanted was a beautiful dress to make me feel beautiful for once. But my mom said no and then, when I got upset, my sisters started to gossip and say rude things to my face and my mom let them. Sob!
Angry In Ashland
Dear AIA,
I’m really sorry to hear about your problem. It sounds like you feel like your mom favors your sisters over you. Is that true? If it is, many kids with brothers or sisters feel that way when they are growing up. However, sometimes it is just because you feel you’re your mom’s making unfair decisions for you – if you open your eyes a bit you may see she is doing the best she can in terms of making the right choices for both you and your sisters.
In terms of your sisters being mean to you, that’s a tough one, too. If your mom doesn’t want to step in and intervene that it may be up to you to do something to stop the teasing and gossiping. And when I say that I don’t mean you should turn around and be mean to your sisters. Have you ever heard of the saying “Kill them with kindness?” What it means is that the nicer you are to people who are mean to you or hurt you, the nicer they will become. Try it and see what happens! In the very least, when your sisters are mean to you, just walk away.
Finally, in my opinion if you really want a beautiful dress for Halloween then you should make up your mind to get one for yourself! There are lots of things you can do to find a dress, even if you don’t have enough money for a brand-new fancy one. Try going to thrift stores for a second-hand gown or garage sales that may have clothing items for sale. You can also look through your own closet to see if there’s a nice dress you can wear that you forgot about. Maybe you can even sew something together? In any case, don’t forget that you ARE beautiful, whether or not you have a fancy dress to wear. True beauty REALLY comes from the inside – so be a beautiful person within yourself and that will shine right through!
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