Dear Dish-It,
My life is so boring; I wish I could escape on an exciting, thrilling adventure. I daydream about being one of the characters in the cartoons I watch – falling in love while avoiding all sorts of danger. I feel like I'm all chained up, waiting to break free. My worst fear is that my whole life will be about school or work. There must be more to life, and I don’t think I can live without adventure. I’d learn so much about myself. I know I’m smart, but I feel like I need to learn more, not just about me, but about everything around me. I wish the world I create for myself inside my head was physically real – a perfect, adventurous, love-filled world. How could I do something to learn more about me, and everything else?
true2myself
Dear true2myself,
You sound like a real dreamer – a girl after my own heart! I’m afraid what I have to say in response to your question isn’t going to make you feel a lot better, but I guess you’ll just have to trust me on this one.
You’re still quite young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. And, if adventure is what you want, then I guarantee it is what you will get! Just keep dreaming and reading and writing about the things you would like to do with your life. Keep your ideas alive in your mind and you never know, they may just come true!
I don’t know how old you are, but I’m guessing you’re still in school and living with your parents. Take a deep breath and accept the fact that you are where you are in your life, and that part of being a kid is going to school so you can fill your head with knowledge and letting your parents take care of you so you can concentrate on keeping your grades up, instead of worrying about finding something to eat or somewhere to sleep.
Once you have grown up and have gained your independence, you’ll absolutely be able to have the adventures you dream about while you’re a kid. If traveling around the world and meeting people from different cultures is what you want to do, then I’m pretty sure you will do everything in your power to make it happen.
Also, I’m here to tell you that you’re right. Meeting new people and seeing new places with your own two eyes definitely help you to learn more about yourself – but so does doing what you’re doing at this very moment. Every experience you have in life, no matter how boring you may think it is, is teaching you valuable lessons about yourself and your amazing potential to do the things you want to do and make a real difference in the world.
So don’t be afraid to chase your dreams – but don’t be afraid to have a little patience and wait for them to happen naturally, and at the right time, either.
So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.
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